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Dick Mays · June 27th, 2006, 06:16 PM

I know this is a little off topic. But it just happens to be that I spend more time reading dvinfo.net than just about anything else on the web, and I feel like I've gotten to know some of you guys, Dylan, Sean, Bradley, Mike, Lorinda. Okay, so Lorinda's not a guy...

My little baby girl, Caroline, went uncredited in my last short. My wife pointed it out when she watched the video. She has been telling me that I take for granted my beautiful children. She's probably right.

Today I had to say goodbye to my newborn son, who never got to open his eyes to the world. Maybe his gift will be to help his father open his eyes to all the beauty that passes our way every day.

Normally, I'm kind of a private guy. Computers and all that stuff. But I just felt like sharing this with someone. You guys are the nicest people I don't really even know, so there it is.

My next short will be dedicated to the little guy.

Samuel Chapman Mays

Enrique Galvis · June 27th, 2006, 07:12 PM

It is hard to know how you feel after I am sure many expectations from you for your newborn.
I have three sons 23, 20 and 18. The youngest just graduated from HS and just then I realized I have no more kids. They now are my sons. In a way I find myself in similar dooldrums about the realization this home will be quiet and somewhat lonesome. I don't know how I could handle losing any of them especially after getting to know them as persons and the pride they have brought me since birth.
I am truly sorry and I hope that you find a little less hurtful way to deal with your loss.

Rob Lohman · June 28th, 2006, 02:58 AM

So sorry to hear this sad news, I don't know what else to say....

Dennis Khaye · June 28th, 2006, 05:44 AM

I too lost a little guy. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your wife.

Mike Teutsch · June 28th, 2006, 06:06 AM

We are your friends, and we do share your grief. I also have three sons and would not want to loose any of them. You and your family will be in our prayers.

Mike

Dylan Couper · June 28th, 2006, 01:42 PM

Hey man, that's terrible news. I'm not great at inspirational stuff, so the best I can do is send my condolences to your family.

Dylan

Robert Martens · June 28th, 2006, 03:17 PM

I'm not sure what to say, having never been through anything like that before, but you and your family have my sympathies nonetheless; I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.

Michael Fossenkemper · June 28th, 2006, 04:33 PM

Really sorry to hear that.

Chris Hurd · June 28th, 2006, 04:51 PM

My deepest condolences. Sometimes it's difficult to comprehend that even in this day and age, there is still a very big problem worldwide with infant mortality rates. Best wishes to you and your family,

Chris Barcellos · June 28th, 2006, 05:01 PM

Dick:

I was sorry to hear about your recent sad times. Sometimes we take our own children for granted, and don't recognize how lucky we are. God bless you and your family.

Leslie Dopkiss · June 28th, 2006, 05:07 PM

Dick,

I am so sorry for your loss. The video you are making for him will be a wonderful way to keep his memory alive within your family. And your note to us reminds us of how fragile life is here. I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Leslie

Meryem Ersoz · June 28th, 2006, 05:40 PM

sorry for your loss...that's heart-breaking news.

Dick Mays · June 28th, 2006, 07:16 PM

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.

We are sad, but we also feel blessed to have held our little boy, and if he could feel anything, it would only have been love.

Someday, one of the filmmakers on this site will shoot a feature winning the Sundance Jury award, and will leave us for a calendar of Talk Shows and Premieres. But the rest of us will take some pleasure in having known him/her before the fame. Just knowing someone is a blessing.

It seems to me, that life is all those little things we take for granted while we are planning for our great success.

I'm drinking wine tonight, so pardon the pensive melancholy!

When is DVC 6?

Leslie Dopkiss · June 28th, 2006, 07:25 PM

Dick,

Why is it that such sad events bring us to such universal truths? When my mom was alive she always told me "this too shall pass" - and she used it for both the happy and sad of life. I'm glad I told her she was right while she was alive!

I would love to see your video when it is done.

I think I will join you in a glass of wine - a toast to your son's memory and brief (but significant) life.

Leslie

Patrick Coker · June 28th, 2006, 08:46 PM

my son Tristan was born on 6/19/05 and passed on 8/30/05. He was only with us for 72 days and though the world went on as if nothing was happening, my world was rocked. He was/is my only child and having to make the decision to take him off the ventilator was the hardest thing I have ever done. I got to hold him as he passed and as cliched as it sounds a little of me went with him. The only thing that you can do to honor your little man is live well and know that you will never forget him.

June 27th, 2006, 06:16 PM	#1
Dick Mays Major Player Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 690	DV Challenge Friends I know this is a little off topic. But it just happens to be that I spend more time reading dvinfo.net than just about anything else on the web, and I feel like I've gotten to know some of you guys, Dylan, Sean, Bradley, Mike, Lorinda. Okay, so Lorinda's not a guy... My little baby girl, Caroline, went uncredited in my last short. My wife pointed it out when she watched the video. She has been telling me that I take for granted my beautiful children. She's probably right. Today I had to say goodbye to my newborn son, who never got to open his eyes to the world. Maybe his gift will be to help his father open his eyes to all the beauty that passes our way every day. Normally, I'm kind of a private guy. Computers and all that stuff. But I just felt like sharing this with someone. You guys are the nicest people I don't really even know, so there it is. My next short will be dedicated to the little guy. Samuel Chapman Mays

June 28th, 2006, 02:58 AM	#3
Rob Lohman RED Code Chef Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Holland Posts: 12,514	So sorry to hear this sad news, I don't know what else to say.... __________________ Rob Lohman, visuar@iname.com DV Info Wrangler & RED Code Chef Join the DV Challenge \| Lady X Search DVinfo.net for quick answers \| Buy from the best: DVinfo.net sponsors

June 28th, 2006, 06:06 AM	#5
Mike Teutsch Inner Circle Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Port St. Lucie, Florida Posts: 2,614	We are your friends, and we do share your grief. I also have three sons and would not want to loose any of them. You and your family will be in our prayers. Mike __________________ Chapter one, line one. The BH.

June 28th, 2006, 01:42 PM	#6
Dylan Couper Wrangler Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Vancouver, British Columbia Posts: 8,314	Hey man, that's terrible news. I'm not great at inspirational stuff, so the best I can do is send my condolences to your family. Dylan __________________ Need to rent camera gear in Vancouver BC? Check me out at camerarentalsvancouver.com

June 28th, 2006, 04:51 PM	#9
Chris Hurd Obstreperous Rex Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: San Marcos, TX Posts: 27,368 Images: 513	My deepest condolences. Sometimes it's difficult to comprehend that even in this day and age, there is still a very big problem worldwide with infant mortality rates. Best wishes to you and your family, __________________ CH Search DV Info Net \| 20 years of DVi \| ...Tuesday is Soylent Green Day!

June 27th, 2006, 07:12 PM	#2
Enrique Galvis Regular Crew Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Vernon, NJ Posts: 44	It is hard to know how you feel after I am sure many expectations from you for your newborn. I have three sons 23, 20 and 18. The youngest just graduated from HS and just then I realized I have no more kids. They now are my sons. In a way I find myself in similar dooldrums about the realization this home will be quiet and somewhat lonesome. I don't know how I could handle losing any of them especially after getting to know them as persons and the pride they have brought me since birth. I am truly sorry and I hope that you find a little less hurtful way to deal with your loss.

June 28th, 2006, 05:44 AM	#4
Dennis Khaye Major Player Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Grand Rapids, MI Posts: 255	I too lost a little guy. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your wife.

June 28th, 2006, 03:17 PM	#7
Robert Martens Major Player Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Miller Place, NY Posts: 820	I'm not sure what to say, having never been through anything like that before, but you and your family have my sympathies nonetheless; I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.

June 28th, 2006, 04:33 PM	#8
Michael Fossenkemper Major Player Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: NYC, weeee. Posts: 417	Really sorry to hear that.

June 28th, 2006, 05:01 PM	#10
Chris Barcellos Inner Circle Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Elk Grove CA Posts: 6,838	Dick: I was sorry to hear about your recent sad times. Sometimes we take our own children for granted, and don't recognize how lucky we are. God bless you and your family. __________________ Chris J. Barcellos

June 28th, 2006, 05:07 PM	#11
Leslie Dopkiss Regular Crew Join Date: May 2006 Location: Columbus, Ohio Posts: 39	Dick, I am so sorry for your loss. The video you are making for him will be a wonderful way to keep his memory alive within your family. And your note to us reminds us of how fragile life is here. I will say a prayer for you and your family. Leslie

June 28th, 2006, 05:40 PM	#12
Meryem Ersoz Wrangler Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Boulder, CO Posts: 3,015	sorry for your loss...that's heart-breaking news.

June 28th, 2006, 07:16 PM	#13
Dick Mays Major Player Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 690	Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. We are sad, but we also feel blessed to have held our little boy, and if he could feel anything, it would only have been love. Someday, one of the filmmakers on this site will shoot a feature winning the Sundance Jury award, and will leave us for a calendar of Talk Shows and Premieres. But the rest of us will take some pleasure in having known him/her before the fame. Just knowing someone is a blessing. It seems to me, that life is all those little things we take for granted while we are planning for our great success. I'm drinking wine tonight, so pardon the pensive melancholy! When is DVC 6?

June 28th, 2006, 07:25 PM	#14
Leslie Dopkiss Regular Crew Join Date: May 2006 Location: Columbus, Ohio Posts: 39	Dick, Why is it that such sad events bring us to such universal truths? When my mom was alive she always told me "this too shall pass" - and she used it for both the happy and sad of life. I'm glad I told her she was right while she was alive! I would love to see your video when it is done. I think I will join you in a glass of wine - a toast to your son's memory and brief (but significant) life. Leslie

June 28th, 2006, 08:46 PM	#15
Patrick Coker Regular Crew Join Date: May 2002 Location: Brooklyn,New York Posts: 169	Condolences my son Tristan was born on 6/19/05 and passed on 8/30/05. He was only with us for 72 days and though the world went on as if nothing was happening, my world was rocked. He was/is my only child and having to make the decision to take him off the ventilator was the hardest thing I have ever done. I got to hold him as he passed and as cliched as it sounds a little of me went with him. The only thing that you can do to honor your little man is live well and know that you will never forget him. __________________ ...all I need is a crumb!